Quick answer · The MIAM series
How long does a MIAM take?
The short answer
A MIAM usually lasts 45 to 60 minutes. It is a one to one meeting with an accredited family mediator, held in person or by video call, and you attend separately from your ex partner. Most people can book an appointment within a week, and once the mediator signs your court form you can apply to court straight away if that is your route.
How the time is spent
The first ten minutes or so cover what mediation is, how it works and what it costs, including legal aid and the voucher scheme. The middle of the meeting is yours: your situation, what needs sorting out, and the private safety screening questions every MIAM includes. The final stretch covers your options, whether mediation is suitable, and the paperwork, including signing the MIAM section of the C100 or Form A if you need it.
When it can run longer
Complex situations take longer to explain, and that is fine. If there is a lot of background, safeguarding detail or questions about funding, a MIAM can stretch past the hour. Mediators would rather take the time than rush the assessment, so book it somewhere you will not be interrupted.
The timing that matters afterwards
The signed confirmation on your court form is treated as valid for four months, so if court is likely, do not leave a long gap between the MIAM and your application. If both of you decide to mediate instead, a first joint session typically follows within a couple of weeks.
Quick questions
Is the meeting longer if we both attend?
You do not attend together. Each of you has your own individual MIAM, usually with the same mediator, and each meeting takes around 45 to 60 minutes.
How soon after the MIAM can I apply to court?
Immediately, if the mediator has signed your form. There is no waiting period, though the signed confirmation is treated as valid for four months.
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Sources: Family Mediation Council; Mediation Guide editorial research. Checked 17 July 2026.
Written by the Mediation Guide editorial team and reviewed by an FMC accredited family mediator. Part of our complete MIAM guide.